Comfortable With a Quiet Life

Some HSP's are very comfortable with a quiet life. Finding work they enjoy and a few close relationships will deeply satisfy them. They can happily stay at home for hours or even days on end and be quite content. Talking to a close friend, walking in the woods, curling up in a comfy spot and reading a good book—that's really all that's needed.

Others have a need for adventure and change, even though the stimulation from the adventure is challenging. These HSP's get bored more easily and want to travel, go out, and take on challenging projects. Over-stimulation sends them home to be alone and gather themselves, but the need to turn around and seek more adventure and change returns once they are rested. 

Elaine Aaron in her book, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, says this variability comes from a secondary characteristic she calls "sensation seeking." She has also created a checklist to help you understand the degree of sensation seeking you have. 

These two variables, high sensitivity and sensation seeking account for some of the wide variety between various HSP's. Probably the most difficult combination is having a high degree of sensitivity and a high degree of sensation seeking. Your window of optimum stimulation is the most small. The impulse is to seek change, go and do, but then all that new stimulation wears you out. Being highly sensitive and having a low need for sensation seeking will help you be content with a simple quiet life. All combinations are good, it's just finding the balance that YOU need that is important!

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